Stop Waiting Around For Your Own Danny Castellano

Honestly, Anna is the closest thing I’ve got to a boyfriend at the moment.

This weekend I did something I am not proud of.

I watched a whole season of The Mindy Project. I’m a little embarrassed. It may have required me to stay up until 3:30 in the morning on Saturday, and I may have cried while watching it… twice. But let me attempt to justify myself. First off, The Mindy Project is a masterpiece. Second of all, (I’ll try not to spoil anything) the couple I had been rooting for forever finally got together and it was romantic and beautiful.

So, yes I cried. It was 2:30 in the morning and I maybe I was slightly emotional. But, also, I just wanted to experience that same romantic, beautiful love that only happens in television.

I have found that in my times of single-ness, I (as well as my other friends I have talked to) tend to go through phases of being totally okay with being single and then wanting a boyfriend more than anything. I had been doing really well in the past couple moths, focusing on myself and not really thinking about having a boyfriend. But in about the past week, I have a hit a slump. I’ve been feeling a little sad and a little lonely, and I’ve really been wanting a boyfriend.

I don’t think this is a bad or unnatural feeling, and I don’t want to judge anyone who also feels this way. But it’s no wonder I sometimes want a boyfriend. Anytime I have to make small talk with a female classmate or peer, I always get asked the same question: “Sooooo any boys in your life?” (Most the time I either laugh or talk about my NFL boyfriend, JJ Watt, or my NHL boyfriend, Jamie Benn)

Because we live in a society that sometimes puts too much value on having a significant other. Why do I get asked about my love life instead of my extracurriculars or leadership or goals or college plans?

As women and sisters and friends, we need to stop asking girls about significant others because we assume that is the most important thing in a girl’s world. Because it’s not, and until we’re married, it shouldn’t be.

So next time you’re watching The Mindy Project and crying because you want your own Danny Castellano, maybe remember that God made you worth so much more than a significant other.

He is enough. // 2 Corinthians 12:9

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